Individual Therapy for Relationships
Relationship Therapy for Individuals
Whether Single or Married, healthy relationships take a lot of work, expert advice and personal growth. Our therapists understand relationships and can help.
Do you keep failing in relationships?
Currently in one and not sure what to do or how to feel?
Do you keep “losing the spark”?
Struggle with commitment or infidelity?
Relationship Counseling for Individuals may help. Perhaps you are hoping, “I wish that I had a satisfying relationship in which I feel comfortable, safe and fulfilled.” You’re not alone. Many people struggle with chronic relationship difficulties that keep them from being fully invested in their romantic relationships, but few seek help to get there. It starts with you.
Unfortunately we are never explicitly taught how to behave in relationships, and so we tend to get our ideas about what sex and romance from popular media, porn, “love gurus” or word of mouth. A lot of the messages that we receive from these sources are just flat out wrong, and at times damaging.
We at Lifestance believe that having a satisfying relationship is based on some education, self-reflection and coping strategies.We offer resources to do just that. We have therapists that are specifically trained in relationship issues, so if you want to speak to an expert about any topic concerning your relationship, we can help.
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Our Clinicians also help with:
- Personal Growth
- Navigating Life Transitions (relocation, career changes, stage of life growth)
- Existential Concerns
- Managing Anger or Panic
- Gaining control over Substance use & Addiction
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Relationship Counseling for Individuals can provide insight and relief to a variety of obstacles
Here are some of the common relationship issues that LifeStance helps our clients through:
- Dating Issues
- Past Relationship Trauma
- Pre-Marriage Analysis
- Breakups and Divorces
- After the Birth of a Newborn
There are a number of issues that may affect your dating life. Here are a few specific dating issues that we work on.
- Negative beliefs and patterns that lead to pursuing people who weren’t interested in you or right for you.
- Constant miscommunications with dates or communication “text” anxiety
- If you can never end a relationship
- Social anxiety or general dating anxiety [LINK]
- If you never feel worthy enough for your dates.
- Body image issues [LINK]
Past Relationship Trauma
There are a number of relationship related traumas that can stay with us for a long time. If you have experienced a relationship trauma and feel that you are still struggling with past betrayals or boundary violations, it can be helpful to talk with someone who understands.
We have a number of trauma-focused therapists on staff. Ultimately we hope that we can help you create space for your trauma and create meaning from that past experience and put it in context for your future relationships.
Or do you think that perhaps you were abusive in your past or current relationship? We can provide you an opportunity to explore that difficult past and change. Some people realize after the fact that what they did was wrong, and either due to a guilty conscience or just a general desire to be a better person, they seek help to improve.
We encourage this process of change by helping clients come to terms with the thoughts, feelings and behaviours that either support, change or destroy relationships. Only then can clients begin to work towards creating relationships that are respectful, caring and safe.
Prepare for Marriage with Premarital Counseling
If you are considering getting married, but have concerns or questions about what a life together will look like, our premarital counseling can help. The sad fact of the matter is that most couples come to marital counseling too late (perhaps even 6 years too late).
By the time they come to a couples counseling session they are already so far down the road of separation, that there’s little to be done to save it. Relationships require a certain level of positive affection and trust, and if a couple comes to counseling where there is none of either, then it’s difficult to find a path forward.
Premarital counseling helps newlyweds to be on the lookout for the red flags that signal the end of a relationship. On top of that, succeeding in marriage takes a huge amount of effort and specific skills that many couples don’t naturally have. In order to succeed at marriage we need to be masters of emotion, verbal communication, body language, anger management, empathy and understanding. We work on couples with all of these topics.
In a study done by Jason Caroll and William Doherty, 2 groups of newlyweds were studied, one who underwent premarital counseling and one without. They found that marriage quality was improved by an average of 30% for those who underwent premarital counseling. How much does a 30% improvement in marriage quality mean to you? Can you imagine how many better days that is in the lifetime of a marriage?
If you could knowingly prevent your relationship from ending by learning what potential causes could be, would you want that knowledge?
Coping With the End of Relationships / Divorce Therapy
The moment you realize you will be going through a divorce or separation can feel like a gutpunch. If the divorce is related to infidelity or betrayal, the event can be very traumatic. Learn more here[LINK] During any divorce, many people need space to grieve the relationship. Learn more about our grief counseling [LINK]. No matter the situation or relationship, talking with someone to navigate what your emotions are or how you can create meaning from your struggle is important.
At times it takes someone else (who is unbiased) reviewing the reasons given for separation point by point to better understand what has happened. Some partners realize that they heard the complaint, but didn’t truly understand it until pressed to by their therapist. We will challenge you to grapple with the difficulties of this experience, but also make sure that you feel comfortable talking about it and let you know that your experience will be understood within each session.
After the Birth of a Newborn
The period after the birth of your first child is one that dramatically changes the priorities in your life and your marriage. By talking with one of our counselors during this difficult period you can reduce the stumbling blocks you will face. In particular, this is the time that puts the most stress on your relationship, and sees the most conflicts and separations. You will likely be sleepless, stressed and emotional, wouldn’t you also like to be prepared?
Our Approach to Relationship Counseling
When we talk about relationships we often hear “communication, communication, communication!” While communication [LINK] is important, often what matters most when it comes to relationships are intimacy [LINK] and emotion. Our therapists for relationship issues focus on this idea, and so are able to cut to the chase when it comes to relationship issues.
Most notably we use Emotionally Focused Therapy to help you better understand and deal with the difficult emotions that you may have in a relationship. For example, you may feel that when a conflict arises you are being blamed or shamed personally. Many people develop a complete aversion to conflict under any cases and as a result either agree to things that they don’t feel comfortable with or never have their needs heard.
Unfortunately for this type of client, they must learn that any relationship between two distinct people will have conflict. So typically our therapists will work through some of the difficult emotions surrounding conflict and talk about some ways that these emotions can be shared.
To continue with this example, we may also use some “third wave” cognitive behavioral therapies [LINK] such as acceptance and commitment therapy or dialectical behavior therapy to help you come to terms with these difficult emotions over conflict. This helps you to not totally obey or fight against conflict anxiety, but to learn that the emotion is there, accept it and continue with the conversation. We know that once you can develop a new relationship to the emotions that are holding back your relationship, you can resurrect it.
One other way that we look at relationship issues is through the lens of family systems theory. The key idea here is that a relationship is a kind of system. For example, say that a couple has just graduated college and finds themselves cut off from their parents. Now the support system that they each had during college is wholly expected from their partner. This sudden change in expectations for the relationship can cause a shock that disrupts the relationship. Learning to set boundaries for your relationships within your broader support systems is an important skill that we work on clients with.
A Note on Relationships
The way we and our partner experience the world are different. In a way, we live in two different realities, so coming to terms with this fact is an important first step. Your partner will never automatically think exactly like you, and you may never truly understand what they feel. However, you can better learn to listen and make space for their thoughts and feelings.
Break-free and begin your journey to
There is a future life where trauma does not control your day. Imagine yourself feeling calm, confident and ready to handle new situations with ease. The tools to living the life you have always envisioned are here, at your fingertips.
LifeStance Health can help.
Reach out directly to our Client Care Coordinator for questions, matching, and scheduling:
Our services are also available online through Zoom. Telehealth/Online counseling gives you the opportunity to explore your challenges in life without complicating your daily schedule.
First Session Within 72 Hours of Calling
We book you an appointment within 24 hours of contacting us (usually less) and make sure your first appointment is soon after.
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LifeStance Washington Locations
Tacoma Meadow Park
12900 NE 180th St, Suite 160
Bothell, WA 98011
Plaza 600 Building
600 Stewart St, Suite 1228
Seattle WA 98101
–Coming Fall 2021–
221 N Wall St.
Spokane WA 99201
5909 Orchard Street West
Tacoma, WA 98467
2420 S. Union Ave, Suite 100
Tacoma, WA 98405
5201 Olympic Drive, Suite 210
Gig Harbor, WA 98335
21727 76th Ave West, Suite C
Edmonds, WA 98026